When someone[NL1] you care about is going through a difficult time, it can be hard to know what to say or do. Audrée Bourdages, an agricultural outreach worker in the Gaspésie–Îles-de-la-Madeleine region for Au cœur des familles agricoles, an organization providing mental health support to farmers and their families, shares a few tips for supporting someone who may be struggling.
Recognizing the Signs
Given the fast pace of farm life, it's important to pay attention to changes in a person's behaviour. Noticeable shifts in daily habits or substance use, changes in sleep or appetite, or a decline in work attendance or reliability may all be signs that someone is having a difficult time.
"For example, someone who normally takes pride in their appearance but suddenly stops caring for themselves, someone who begins isolating themselves despite previously enjoying time with family and friends, or someone who starts making unusual or impulsive decisions," says Audrée Bourdages.
Persistent irritability is another key sign to watch for. "Situations that provoke much stronger reactions than they once did may indicate that a person has reached their limit or is struggling to cope with the challenges they're facing," she adds.
Listening Before Trying to Fix the Problem
When someone is showing signs of distress, the instinct is often to jump in and solve the problem. However, Audrée Bourdages emphasizes that listening is usually much more helpful.
"We tend to rush straight into giving advice and offering solutions, skipping the most crucial step: listening without judgment. The key is to position yourself as an active listener. The person needs to feel truly heard and respected."
Sometimes, a simple "How are you doing?" or "I'm here if you need me" is enough to open the door to a conversation. Inviting someone for a coffee or asking, "What do you need right now?" or "How can I help?" can make a meaningful difference.
Audrée Bourdages also reminds us never to underestimate the power of a supportive presence. A strong support network where people feel heard and supported is a powerful protective factor and can help them better navigate life's challenges. Resources are available to support both those in crisis and their families, ensuring no one has to go through it alone.
If you need professional support tailored to your reality, you can reach an agricultural social worker Monday through Saturday, between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m.:
450-768-6995, option 1
Other resources available 24/7 by phone:
Info-Social Line (health and social services professionals): 811, option 2
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-866-277-3553
